Egocentric Thinking is one of the distorted thinking pattern or error in thinking that some of the people with the most severely disturbed characters display. A person exhibiting egocentric thinking thinks the entire world revolves around him and believes it is a duty of others to place what he desires or what interests him above everything else. He hardly ever thinks about what someone else might want or need, because he attaches so little importance to it.
Attitude of Indiferrence to others
When disturbed character wants something, he also does not consider whether it is right, good, legal, or if his pursuit of it might adversaly affect anyone; he only cares that he wants it. His constant concern for himself and the things he desires prompt him to lead an extremely self-centered lifestyle without respect to rights, needs, wants, or expectations of others or society in general. Such an attitude fosters a complete disregard for social obligation.
Ego-centered thinking and homosexuality
|A neurotic process|
|“Lust takes us out of our bodies, “attaching” our psyche onto someone else’s physical form. That’s why homosexual sex – and all other lust-based sex – is never satisfactory: It’s a neurotic process rather than a natural, normal one. Normal is normal – and has been called normal for a reason. ... As a leader in the “gay rights” movement, I was given the opportunity to address the public many times. If I could take back some of the things I said, I would. Now I know that homosexuality is lust and pornography wrapped into one. I’ll never let anybody try to convince me otherwise, no matter how slick their tongues or how sad their story. I have seen it. I know the truth.”|
French philosopher and moralist Jean de La Bruyère wrote already in the 17th century in his Des Ouvrages des esprits (On works of the spirit) that children tend to be self-interested and that they have immoderate joys and bitter afflictions over little things. "They are spoiled just as much by being given undeserved punishments as by being given no punishments at all." Ego-centered thinking — the chief characteristics of the psyche of the child and the adolescent, childishness and sometimes downright egotism, pervade also the child/adolescent personality of the adult with a homosexual complex. His unconscious pity for himself, his viewing and treating himself as pitiable, as well as his "compensative" drives of attention-seeking, craving erotic contacts are clearly infantile, i.e. ego centered. Homosexual restlessness cannot be appeased, much less so by having one partner, because these persons are propelled by an insatiable pining for the unattainable fantasy figure. Essentially, the homosexual is a yearning child, not a satisfied one. The term neurotic describes such relationships well. It suggests the ego-centerdness of the relationship: the attention-seeking instead of loving. Neurotic suggests also childish conflicts as well as the basic disinterestedness in the partner, notwithstanding the shallow pretensions of "love". Nowhere is there more self-deception in the homosexual than in his representation of himself as a lover. One partner is important to the other only insofar as he satisfies that other's needs. Real, unselfish love for a desired partner would, in fact, end up destroying homosexual "love" as was the case with Michael Glatze.
In 1953, Murray coined the term "egophilia". When immature egophilia or self-centeredness are a root casue of homosexual desires, the therapy emphasizes the acquisition of those human and moral virtues that have a deegocentrizing effect and enhance the capacity to love.
Ego-centered thinking in the Bible
Apostle Paul in his 2 Timothy letter tells us that in the last days men will be lovers of self. These men are responsible for the menacing seasons of peril (the 'times of stress') which the church has to bear. They are fallen men, evil men, men whose nature is perverted, whose behavior is self-centered and godless, whose mind is hostile to God and his law, and who spread evil, heresy and dead religion in the church. Paul's characterization of these bad men in particular delineates their moral conduct. These wicked men are portrayed as 'lovers of self' (in Greek: philautoi), and they are not, as they should be, 'lovers of God' (philotheoi). What is fundamentally wrong with these people is that their love is misdirected. Instead of being first and foremost 'lovers of God', they are:
- 'lovers of self',
- 'lovers of money', and
- 'lovers of pleasure'.
People who love themselves best become proud, arrogant and abusive. Paul's expressions describe them as 'braggarts' or 'swashbucklers' (alazones), and 'haughty' or 'disdainful' (hyperēphanoi), what naturally leads to another trait, being 'slanderous' (blasphēmoi), because inevitably those who have an exaggerated opinion of themselves look down with contempt upon others and speak evil of them.
Egocentric Thinking of Blackmailers
Egocentric thinking is typical for blackmailers. While focused almost totally on their desires, they do not exhibit the signs of being the least bit interested in needs of others. When we don't satisfy their self-centered expectations, they can become ruthless and tyrannical in their single-minded pursuit of their goals.
- George K. Simon (2011). Character Disturbance: The Phenomenon of Our Age. Little Rock, USA: Parkurst Brothers, 159–160. ISBN 978-1-935166-33-7.
- How a 'gay rights' leader became straight. WND Commentary (07/03/2007). Retrieved on 6 Aug 2017.
- Jean de La Bruyère. Des Ouvrages des esprits (On works of the spirit). frenchphilosophes.weebly.com. “50 (IV) Children are haughty, disdainful, angry, envious, curious, self-interested, lazy, flighty, timid, intemperate, lying and dissimulating; they laugh and cry easily; they have immoderate joys and bitter afflictions over little things; they never want to suffer from pain and they like to make others do so; they are already adults. 51 (IV) Children have niether a past nor a future, and, what nearly never happens to us, they enjoy the present. 59 (IV) A person loses all of children's confidence and becomes useless to them when he punishes them for things they did not do, or punishes them severely for little things. Chilren know precisely, and better than anyone, what they deserve, and they seldom deserve more than they are afraid of. They know if it is wrong or right that they are being punished, and they are spoiled just as much by being given undeserved punishments as by being given no punishments at all.”
- Gerard J.M. Van Den Aardweg (1997). "4.The Neurotism of homosexuality", The Battle for Normality: A Guide for (Self-)Therapy / Homosexuality. Ignatius press, 20, 62, 70. ISBN 978-0-89870-614-7.
- John Stott (1973 (First Edition)). "3. The Charge To Continue In The Gospel", The Message of 2 Timothy. InterVarsity Press, 81-86. ISBN 978-0-87784-295-8. “Originally published under the title Guard the Gospel.”
- Susan Forward (1998 (reprinted 2001)). Emotional Blackmail. HarperCollins Publishers, 88. ISBN 978-0060-928971.